Thursday, December 20, 2012

Simplicity Parenting- Kim John Payne

One of my "Go To" sources for how to handle any parenting questions is Kim John Payne's Simplicity Parenting. After many years of working in the world of education and psychology I have found Kim's approach simple, assuring and gentle. To me it is real and tangible. 

I want to share  Kim's approach on how to handle the information regarding Last Friday's tragedy in Connecticut.  Please read the rest of his article here.

An area that I want to focus for many Non-Waldorf families is Filtering Out Adult Concerns. Even for me and Viking Dad it is easy for us to get into our "Analysis Mode" and forget that Viking Monkey Boy and Viking Lady Bug are in the same room. I am going to use Kim's mantra below.

"Filtering Out Adult Concerns
We recommend - urge -  that children not be exposed to news reporting on screen or radio, or adult conversations about this event. Young children do not really grasp that repeated announcements are about one single event. Each time they hear a news report or overhear an unguarded adult conversation, the risk is that it sets off a brain based "cascade" of fight-or-flight hormones which can significantly delay their healing.
What to Filter In...Alternatively, reach into your store of favorite family stories. Tell the familiar beloved stories of Grandpa or Grandma, or maybe some from when you were little (especially the ones where you were naughty). These old stories are familiar and deeply securing to a child.  

The filtering out mantra applies here more than ever. Before you say anything in front of your child ask yourself three simple questions.
  1.  Is it true?
  2. Is it kind?
  3. Is it necessary?

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